Season One: Meeting Ourselves.
There’s no straight path to happiness or even nirvana. So often the challenges we face can help us find the one thing we’ve been looking for, but sometimes we can’t (or don’t want to) read the signs. This series is about breaking down some of life’s experiences around relationships, using them to teach us a few things that we may not have known or understood about ourselves and to discover what it takes to feel truly happy and loved.
We can’t give you the answers, but we will show you how to find them. And hopefully by learning from our mistakes, you will be inspired to make some of your own!
Work in Progress: Karma doesn’t have to hurt. What goes around doesn’t always come around (unless you need it to!). Truth is, we often shy away from growth opportunities because they’re uncomfortable and really painful. But if we face them instead, we can break the patterns that often hold us back from reaching our fullest potential. That’s why we know that Karma’s My Bitch: we choose to make the shitty lessons our biggest strengths...and we want to help you do it too.
A Humungous Lesson: Not being loved the way you want to be can really hurt. But it doesn’t always have to stay that way.
The Disappointment of Dating: Dating is an old-fashioned practice in a modern world. It doesn’t quite work and often results in pretty miserable experiences. We think that sometimes you need to break the rules to find real connection. Oh and we talk about sex too.
Meeting Your Shadow Self: Ever been ghosted? We have, and it sucks. Not knowing why someone didn’t choose you can often leave you feeling pretty shitty. But if you look at it differently, it can teach you so much about your Shadow (which everyone has...no exceptions!). It’s not nearly as bad as you fear it is and can actually help you find the love you have always wanted. Thanks Dave!
You Are Everyone and Everyone is You: Often we go so out of our way to avoid disappointment and getting hurt that we wind up putting up walls that keep us frustrated and alone. Or we project our story onto others to the point that we create unmet expectations. But that doesn’t have to be the case. Connecting with others is an opportunity for growth because it reveals our vulnerabilities as well as our strengths. In using these lessons to our advantage, we can deepen our relationship with ourselves and have fun along the way!
Allowing vs. Surrendering: Many of us are afraid of the Dark, but sometimes it’s the only way to get to the Light. By allowing ourselves to go dark, we are most able to see those areas that we tend to ignore, those parts that we judge or dislike. Once we’re able to embrace the entirety of ourselves, especially the vast range of emotions (even the ones we find uncomfortable!), then we can begin the path to peace.
Love & Sex: Sex can be meaningful even if we aren’t in love with the other person. Sometimes we try to convince ourselves we feel more than we do in order to justify having sex with someone. Yet, sex for the sake of sex can be very satisfying (and often quite necessary!). However, if we want to be able to experience sex in a deep and meaningful way, then we need to come from a space of self-love. Because how we treat sex is truly a measure of how connected we are to ourselves.
Stories that Hurt: The human brain is wired for story. It’s how we understand ourselves and process our experiences. Yet, Romance stories (from bodice rippers to RomComs) and the happily ever afters they promise, perpetuate the unhealthy, dysfunctional myths that many unknowingly cling to today. Recognizing the impact of these stories and choosing a real loving relationship means creating a new story based on connection that comes from the heart.
What’s the Worst that Can Happen?: The most fundamental part of any relationship is trust. Yet, trusting others is often challenging because we’ve lost the ability to trust ourselves. Many of us end up in a self-fulfilling loop where we expect that people will inevitably disappoint us. We have the power to change this when we believe that no matter what, we will always be okay. And what’s more, the lesson will bring us closer to love than if we’d never tried it in the first place.
Not Knowing Who You Are: Many of us suffer from FOMO (Fear of Missing Out). It’s difficult not to compare ourselves to others when our social media feeds are filled with the lifestyles of the rich and not-so-famous. But as we seek to replicate the lifestyles of others in search of the happiness they appear to have, we risk financial debt and moving away from our own fulfilment. That’s real FOMO.
Owning All of Yourself: For too long we have been at war with our physical bodies, taking them for granted and trying to mold them to society’s narrow standards of perfection. Yet, they are more important than we realize because they are a reflection of our emotional, mental and physical state. By embracing them, we can truly embrace who we are. It’s time to listen to what they are trying to tell us, and by doing so, we can become the greatest expression of ourselves.
And Finding Ourselves: Some of us have found ourselves at a crossroads, having to choose between our personal truths and mainstream religious beliefs. This all-or-nothing scenario may lead to feeling faithless and lost. But faith and spirituality don’t have to be guided by rules. What if we allowed ourselves to be guided by love instead?
Losing our Minds: Many spiritual gurus teach the benefits of mindfulness. But for many it means avoiding emotions we need to embrace in order to heal ourselves. Until we can understand what our emotions are meant to teach us, our spiritual growth will be stifled. Nevermindfulness puts our emotions first and allows them to guide us to peace, compassion, and ultimately love.
When Enough is Enough: Abundance isn’t reserved for the spiritually minded. It’s an energy that we can all tap into when we recognise that our self-worth is so much more than the amount of money in our bank account. While money matters (we all have bills to pay!), by fearing that we may lack, we often block our abundance.
Running Away From Ourselves: Death seems to surround us these days. Whether it’s a physical death or a dramatic transformation on a personal or global scale, we can’t escape it. Yet our fears about death often inform how we choose to live and love. If we can understand the impact of death on our human experience, we can change our lives.
Knowing What You Want, Not What You’re Worth: Even though Manifestation has been around for a long time, it’s becoming more popular. But for some, the results are hit and miss or even non existent. To create the reality we desire, not only do we need to unblock our bullshit, we also need to know ourselves fully, so that what we attract is aligned with our purpose.
When Life Hurts: The Gratitude Myth tells us that the more gratitude we show for the little things, the better our lives will be become. While there are benefits to positive thinking, we can’t think ourselves into a new reality. Rather, we must first be able to acknowledge all of our hurts, wounds, traumas and disappointments in order to heal our hearts. Only then can we experience the new reality that gratitude promises us.
The Emotional Hamster Wheel: Let it Go isn’t just a song from Frozen. It’s what we often tell ourselves in order to avoid the hurt and discomfort that result from seemingly failed relationships. Yet if we let something go before we’ve had a chance to heal from it, we may find ourselves in an endless cycle of repeating experiences, missing the lesson that only acknowledging our emotions can teach us.
No One Asks for Your Devotion: Many of us have turned to various spiritual practices for inspiration, comfort and wellness. However, no practice can really be effective unless we are able to look inside and be truly honest with ourselves. Once we accept that we alone are responsible for our healing, then we can embrace our purpose and realize our greatest potential.
What's the Point? In the final episode of the series we discuss what it’s all about and the point of this podcast.