Season Three: Love in Action
In our first season, Meeting Ourselves, we discussed how our relationships mirror us and how those mirrors can serve as avenues for our personal growth. Throughout our second season, Growing Up, we focused on spiritual maturity and what it means to become fully actualized beings.
In Season 3, we explore Love in Action.
Often our love stories end with the happily ever afters or happily for nows. But the reality is that love connections are merely the beginning of another phase of relationship that brings us to a deeper, more sustaining love with ourselves. This kind of personal commitment can be challenging but worthwhile when we realize the kind of eternal, unconditional love that’s possible.
Finding the Divinity Within: In order to come into a loving relationship with another person requires we learn what it takes to love ourselves first. This self-love not only means embracing who we are, but also figuring out how to express that through our purpose.
Giving the Worst We Got: Relationships are for our growth and evolution, not our happily ever after. If we’re so focused on the end, instead of the many lessons they afford us, we may find ourselves stuck in relationships that don’t serve us in the long-term. Once we are able to determine our own worth and value is when we can begin to write our own happy endings.
Broken Hearts: Part of growing and evolving in 3D separation and polarity meant having our hearts broken time and again. This has not only led us to mistrust ourselves but to associate love with pain. Yet, as we heal our hurts, little by little, we find we can discover a deep and abiding love for ourselves that we can pass on to our children so they don’t have to learn the way we did.
A Whole New World: In order the world to be able to come into an Age of Harmony, we’ve needed to come into harmony with ourselves first so that we can support the younger generations. As more of these new souls come through, we’ll be challenged to not only heal, but find the love necessary to help them realize their purpose.
When it’s Over: Early 2020 gave us a unique opportunity to confront our deepest fears in order to prepare us for a changing world. While we may not know what will arise out of the coming years, the best way to prepare is to let love rule, whatever that may mean for us.
Tests, Challenges and other Bullshit: When it comes to dating, expectations are the greatest killer. As we move into a new relationship paradigm, gauging a person’s interest in us will be less about how they demonstrate their feelings and more about how we feel in that person’s presence. In order to do this, not only do we need to know our ourselves well enough to be able to connect to our feelings honestly, but also to be connected to our purpose so we understand how that person can fit into our lives.
Forever and a Day: While relationships are intended for our personal growth, lifetime partnership isn’t necessarily for everyone. Only when we can let go of the ideal of the “One” and allow ourselves the freedom to have different kinds of relationships will we ever be able to determine the kind of partnerships that are right for us.
After the Love Has Gone—Rebuilding the Life from Within – Living with uncertainty isn’t easy. Not knowing what’s next also means that anything is possible. And if we can work through our fears of the unknown, we can recognize the potential we all have to create a better life for ourselves.
Got it ‘til it’s Gone: Sex is one of the most profound physical experiences we can have, which can also deepen our relationship to ourselves. But first, we need to be able to recognize our own sexuality and sexual nature before we make the choice to share it with others.
Trusting Ourselves: The more we acknowledge our fears, the closer we come to healing them and being able to create a life based on our desires. Once we do that, we’ll be able to come back to the trust and knowing we had when we were young.
Loving Ourselves First: Money can’t buy love, but believing that it does destroys our relationship to both love and money itself. By becoming enslaved to our need for both, we have conflated the two and diminished our capacity to love ourselves. The only true measure of anyone’s worth in a relationship is not by how much they have, but how much their love inspires our own.
Painful Choices: Break-ups are some of the most challenging decisions we can reach in a relationship. But if we are to do what we came here to do, which is grow and evolve past our karmic stories and our issues, then we need to be able to make the sometimes painful choice to move forward without our significant others.
Preoccupation or Obsession: Not all relationships are meant to last forever. Some people may enter our lives for a brief period to gift us with meaningful experiences and wisdom. It may not always be fun or feel good for long, but they leave their mark in a way that allows them to be a part of us.
When is Enough Enough?: It can be challenging to know the difference between settling and compromise. What enables us to recognize if we’re settling in relationship is whether or not we are coming from a place of personal power. Only when we are in integrity with ourselves can we ensure that we won’t settle for what isn’t enough for us.
No One Completes Us: Most people aren’t as ready for marriage as they want to believe. It takes transcending as much of our karmic story and core fears to really ensure that we are because only then will we feel whole enough to share our lives with someone else.
Commitment vs Compromise: Our relationship to others is a reflection of our relationship to ourselves. So, the better we know ourselves and the more healed we are, the greater our chances for finding the committed relationship we desire.
Sacrificing Happiness: Our relationship to sex and the partners we have says everything about our relationship to ourselves. It's time to look at the expanded purpose of sex and the joy that it can bring when we are in our power.
Afraid of Commitment: Situationships have become some of the most common types of relationships of our time. While they appear to be the solution or middle ground for those who don’t have the time or wherewithal to commit to a relationship, they’re emblematic of our fears around commitment. If we find ourselves in a situationship that we really don’t want to be in, we need to confront our fears that keep us from asking for what we want.
Players, Sluts and the Pursuit of Confidence: In the world of dating, we can easily fall into the game in order to validate ourselves and feel desirable. However, the push/pull dynamic that ends up prevailing takes us further away, not closer to, what we may really want: true partnership.
Redefining Love for Future Generations: To get to a place where we can really be at One with each other requires that we reach a deeper understanding of Love than we’ve ever had before. Not only does it require us to come into a loving relationship with ourselves, but in order to enable love in our lives, we have to make a choice: to live in love or a shadow of it.