Ready or Not

Rhea: 2020 was a ridiculous year, and I think we're all a bit nervous about what 2021 has in store as a result. I mean, if it wasn't for a pandemic and a lockdown, to explosions, to fires, there was no stone left unturned in terms of what we as a society have been pretending doesn't exist. Whether it was racial tensions, whether it was gender tensions, whether it was sexual abuse, whether it was religion, power, illness, health, fear. On a collective level, we had a global pandemic. We had every single place where there was tension, the tension escalated. But actually, I think what we realized was that it wasn't necessarily one spark that was going to ignite everything, but it was all the little things that when you joined the dots together, you saw something very different. I remember looking at it at one point going, how interesting! All these different dots to me are different ways where are we giving away our power? And every single one, it was an issue of power. Where are we disempowered as a result of? Whether it be countries against each other, governments telling us what to do, people in power taking advantage of those who don't have it. And what does that power mean? I think what's interesting and what we started to see was that we don't have to make the same choices we've always made.

Liz:  Ever.

Rhea: And you know, we've discussed it in other episodes and other seasons. I feel like all I talk about is making choices and making choices that feel good to you, and if they go against conventional wisdom, who cares?

Liz:  What good has conventional wisdom even done for us?

Rhea: I mean, look around us. No one who followed conventional wisdom has turned around and gone, God, it was bang on.

Liz:  I'm really glad I did that. That paid off.

Rhea: Yeah. I mean, for me, the biggest seemingly risks I've ever taken have been ones where it felt so true to me, I couldn't do anything else. I couldn't understand why, went totally against all conventional wisdom, and they worked out in my favor every time. Yes, in my favor, it could be a bigger picture in my favor, but they do ultimately. The more I followed my heart, the more I was making choices that felt true to me, that followed my truth, the more I was able to work through enough of my crap that my truth became clearer and clearer until it was so much easier to be in flow and to be at peace because I was connected to my truth. And the only way I learned to be connected to my truth was actively making decisions at the start and then throughout which echoed that truth. And whether or not it turned out that I was acting from my pain ...

Liz:  I'm nodding.

Rhea: And whether or not I was acting from my pain or what I thought was my truth, which in fact turned out to be pain or trauma or whatever else, what it did either way was serve to heal something

Liz:  This is the most loving thing I can do for myself. And I think it depends on who you are, what your karmic story is, where you're coming from and where your consciousness lies...

Rhea: In the wake of 2020, when we feel like we're picking up the pieces of having seen all the different areas in which we were disempowered and all the areas where we were scared, where we were hurt, but we kind of feel like we've been left bleeding out.

Liz:  Hung out to dry. Who's taking care of us, because I think that was one of the biggest questions to come out of 2020 is who's managing all of this?

Rhea: In many ways, it was all set up. It was already by the end of 2019.

Liz:  Oh, yes. We were ripe for 2020. Primed.

Rhea: 2020 was unavoidable considering what happened in 2019.

Liz:  I know. It was all leading up to it. There was no getting out of it

Rhea: No, there wasn't and we would just let going, all right. Now what the fuck? We've had the year of what the fuck, but now what?

Liz: Understanding all the choices that we made in our lives that led to our disempowerment, all the stories that we swallow time and again. We've been cycling through and forced to really stare at that and really question it and start to own that process of coming to terms with that, if you will, since 2016 and that cycle has now ended. Well, excuse me, it's over and it ended in September 2020. Does that make sense?

Rhea: Kind of. So the cycle of just seeing why we are the way we are.

Liz:  Looping through over and over again … our stories, through our past.

Rhea: Is that on a personal as well as collective level?

Liz:  Very good question. Personal level. We have to be able to burn it out on a personal level before we can do it on the collective level.

Rhea: So, everyone's stories on a personal level all stopped. You stopped looping through it in September.

Liz:  Yes.

Rhea: Everyone? Regardless of how much work you did? That feels like a bit of a cop-out for the ones who didn't do work then.

Liz:  That's so unfair. No, no. Nobody gets to cheat themselves. So what can happen is... This is effectively that spiral of history that we're talking about. So when that spiral ends and a new one begins, what happens to those who might be really in the thick of their stories, it might be that they're still playing through them. They just won't be able to loop back. So they might be sort of hamster wheeling. Does that make sense?

Rhea: Kind of.

Liz:  Because we got to a point where we literally could not go back in time. We literally could not reach back into our past. We really could not sort of fall back into old habits and behaviors, no matter how hard we tried. We could try and be like, why does this feel weird? Because we were able to really tie up a lot of that old stuff.

Rhea: Basically, when we talk about the stories and perspectives, when you look at, let's say last year, year before, you'd be like, oh, my story is, I'm never picked for this or that.

Liz:  Yeah. No one sees me. I'm not seen. I’m not chosen.

Rhea: Yeah, exactly. Let's just say, it's very simple story. I never get a second date.

Liz:  Okay.

Rhea: Simple, simple.

Liz:  Bring that back to dating.

Rhea: I mean, it's just easy to explain that way.

Liz:  No one wants me.

Rhea: They never get a second date. So whilst that's your perspective, it also happened to be your reality. So you would go out and never get a second date. And then some people would have worked through that, gone to their core of, I'm not seen, I'm unlovable, I have this or that issue.

Liz:  Listen to some Matthew Hussey.

Rhea: Huh?

Liz:  Listen to some Matthew Hussey.

Rhea: Yeah, exactly. Oh my God. I get it now.

Liz:  You're so brilliant.

Rhea: Yeah. Exactly. Do the work, and then be like, actually maybe that's not the case. Maybe I could deserve a second date and then kind of see that their life slowly changes. But then every now and again, they're like, Oh my God. Maybe I'm still no second date girl, but that's just a perception in their mind because actually it's not their reality anymore.

Liz:  That energy is not going to be holding us back. We're going to be holding ourselves back.

Rhea: Okay. So really what you're saying is that since September 2020 to this day and then onwards, we are truly...

Liz:  Through this year.

Rhea: Through this year, anything you believe you can create. So it's not about I am a victim here. This is the way it is because of what's happened to others before who were like me. Their prison doesn't belong to me. I can live in it should I believe it, but if I choose to not believe it, it doesn't exist, which is totally true, to be honest.

Liz:  I mean, God yeah. Right?

Rhea: I'm not sure it ever was true that anyone's prison belongs to anyone else, but that's just my personal opinion.

Liz:  So in order to come from that place that you were talking about, where we can choose for ourselves, that we can choose to believe what we want to believe, and we can have those choices shape our lives.

Rhea: Well effectively, 2020 broke all the rules and that's what stressed everyone out, because we didn't know up from down, 11:00 AM from 3:00 PM.

Liz:  Still don't think we're there yet.

Rhea: From what was an office and what was a bed, we lost every single rule. 2021, we get to make up our own and we get to know that since there are no more rules, we can write whatever the fuck we want.

Liz:  Absolutely. And to be able to do that as you stated earlier, we need to be coming from a place of being whole, healed individuals. So that way we're not making choices informed by our trauma or pain, not in an effort to find some relief from the daily hurt that we're experiencing, because we hadn't had a chance to really deal with our karmic stories and our relationships and our families, et cetera. Now and what we're really going to be dealing with is how do we come into our full power?

Rhea: So basically, how do we heal?

Liz:  How do we heal and come into our power as a result?

Rhea: Okay. Well, that was going to be my question.

Liz:  And that's pretty much for the next three episodes as well we're doing.

Rhea: Okay, fine. So it's really the question of, because once you can create your own rules, you want to be able to create them from a place where you think you are good enough to have whatever you want, so you're able to create whatever you want. But if you don't think you deserve it, if you don't think that it's possible for you, what you might unwittingly end up doing is just perpetuating all the shitty lies that you've told yourself and you've believed the rest of your life. So even though 2020 broke all the rules, you might unwittingly just end up rebuilding the same ones.

Liz:  Or attempting to, to your frustration because it really isn't possible. And that's really what we were seeing towards the middle and end of 2020 was who's going to take care of me now? Who's going to choose me? We were experiencing all of that. And as you said, in the ways in which our disempowerment was playing out, because we weren't in our power, we were expecting people to save us.

Rhea: But that's not true power, is it? Asking someone else to save us

Liz:  Oh gosh, no. That's just perpetuating our disempowerment.

Rhea: And we keep talking, but we literally, I mean, I feel like this is all said, but it's true. Whether it is you know, and “We Don't Need Another Hero” in Season Two “Savior Syndrome”, like we've been saying it and a lot of the love episodes, we talk about it as well. You know? And when we're talking about a new paradigm for partnership, any aspect of your life where you need someone else, NEED someone else in order for you to know something about yourself, then you're fucked.

Liz:  In any area of your life.

Rhea: Anything. I need a partner in order to know that I am lovable. I need this job in order to know that I'm employable. I need this degree in order to know that I'm smart. I need this routine in order to know that I can wake up and go to bed at night and someone else has to wake me up and put me to bed at night or whatever it is.

Liz:  I need somebody to tell me that I have value.

Rhea: Yes. I need someone to tell me when to leave the house and what I look like when I leave the house, and what I'm wearing.

Liz:  And at the root of so much of that is how much we'd sacrificed our freedom for that, and that is really what we were forced to confront in 2020. So when you asked what the fuck point of 2020, it was understanding all the ways in which we had sacrificed our freedom for perceived security.

Rhea: Makes sense.

Liz:  And that's the statement right there.

Rhea: So I think that's what I found near the end of the summer of 2020.

Liz:  Oh, that's beautiful.

Rhea: Where I started realizing that I had shed enough of my crap, AKA I had realized all the places where I wasn't being free to choose because I was scared of some else's fallout or as you said, because I didn't want to lose love. I didn't want to lose all the things I thought were keeping me safe, that I had shed enough of it, that I almost was like, I'm going to make this choice and to hell with the consequences kind of thing. What I found was is that it made me feel a bit divine, and I know that sounds really weird because I don't know what the fuck feeling divine means.

Liz:  You're talking to me. That doesn't sound weird.

Rhea: But I just felt a little bit invincible and not in a 'I can do whatever I want and it doesn't matter' way, but in a 'wow, I can really listen to myself and the world hasn't fallen apart' so maybe the world won't fall apart and maybe I can continue listening to myself. Because I think before what I used to do was I'd almost go to all the different things - talk to you, talk to our friends, talk to a million people because all we're really looking for is for one person or one thing to give us permission to do what we actually want to do.

Liz:  We want the validation, don't we?

Rhea: Because we don't want to say it on our own. And in other ways, it's like I don't really know what to do so I'm going to flip a coin and then I'll know.

Liz:  Right. Because yeah, we want the clarity that... I mean, just think about when you were feeling in your most divine self, things were very clear, right? You just knew immediately. And even when you're engaged in your work, you rarely question anything. Everything comes quite quickly.

Rhea: Well, I just don't overthink it in the same way.

Liz:  But we have to understand that divinity comes from within. That true power that you're talking about, that sense of absolute freedom, it comes from within. It cannot come from any other source. And what I found really problematic and what we've said in a previous episode, but we'll say it this way because we didn't say it in this context, is using things like these tools to the divine, if you will, like astrology or cards...

Rhea: Cause you either love yourself enough that you choose you or you don't so you listen to others. It's really bottom line, as simple as that.

Liz:  It is truly that simple, and yet we noticed how hard it was for so many. That their lives were bound up in such a way, either through their careers or through their social circles and relationships or through their cultures, that it felt impossible.

Rhea: If I choose myself, I might lose you and I don't know what the world looks like without.

Liz:  My world will crumble and I will crumble along with it.

Rhea: But the thing is, and I can say this and I am a living testament to this, relationships with them it can just get better. I have to say that every single person - from my romantic relationships, to my friendships, to my family, to work, to everything - have only improved. I have not lost anybody. I may have gained new friends, but I haven't lost anyone. And I remember I talked a lot to you about this, about like, Oh, if I choose myself, I'm going to lose him. Oh, if I write this chapter, I'm going to lose him. Oh, if I record this podcast, I'm going to lose him. Oh, if I'm free....

Liz:  Or when they listen to this podcast, they're going to go.

Rhea: If I'm free, then he'll be free too and I'll lose him. I haven't.

Liz: That's interesting. Yeah. So you want to know the good news? Does anybody want to hear a little bit of good news?

Rhea: Yeah, that would be nice.

Liz:  We are now at the very beginning of the beginning of 5D, so happy 2021 everyone, and I'll explain what that means. It means that.... so what you just mentioned about your relationships just getting better and things not totally falling apart the way you had feared and stuff, it's important to point out though that in order to enable that required you to be able to shift.

Rhea: Yeah. It required me to be able to... my relationship with myself fell apart. That had to be picked back up and put back together first.

Liz:  And when that happens, even though people might have stayed in your life, they're still shifting within that dynamic and that's how it got better.

Rhea: Yes.

Liz:  Yes. And that's what we needed to experience. I mean, 2020 was just a huge, massive fucking shift on every level in order for things to get better. You know, no matter how hard you try, you can dig in your heels as much as you want and stay in your old story.

Rhea: It doesn't work.

Liz:  But the energy is such that you will be propelled forward and you were so miserable the more you fought it. And the moment you were able to release yourself - not let go of the story, just release yourself and give yourself permission to be free enough to explore where that was taking you, being at the beginning of the beginning of 5D means that we are now just able to create either through belief, choice, intention, this new world, something that's loving, compassionate, supportive, honoring, based in integrity, based in this 'I-thou' dynamic of I can make this as much about you as I can myself because there's space for all of us to exist in a state of harmony. And as we know, it's not harmony in terms of 50/50 or balance -what you have I have to have - because that's based in greed. It has everything to do with 'as I shift, you shift. As you shift, I shift' and we can do that because we're more or less on the same level, even if we're not living the same lives.

As we really explore what it means to come into our individual power in early 2021, and that's really going to be through March, it's really about asking ourselves three questions, these main questions, which are huge.

Rhea: This is to do until March?

Liz:  Yeah. This is really what a lot of us will be exploring. A lot of people will be exploring it. Some might've hit that point. We begin to really understand that this new world that we're just beginning to really conceive of, begins and ends with us individually, which is why we have to keep coming back time and again to ourselves. This time is really about looking within and asking ourselves three fundamental questions, which I actually really liked when I got them, which was: Who the fuck am I now? All the shit from 2019 and the what-the-hell -was-that of 2020. We are not the same people. It is not possible.

The second question is: What do I want from my life? It's a very simple question, and one that I think has plagued people for lifetime after lifetime. I mean, God knows we're born, like what do you want to do with the rest of your life? But this is a huge one, and one that I think people were really forced to contend with in 2020, but they're still going to be dealing with that and the aftermath of the choices they begin to make, because it might be that there's going to be a lot of dismantling, unraveling of people's lives in order to support that choice. And that's why it's going to be so big. So, the third question that we'll be having to ask ourselves is: When can I begin to do this? When is going to be ... and it's funny because remember in all of our seasons, time has such a ... we have a really funny relationship. You have a funny relationship to time. I'm like, why am I saying we? You!

Rhea: A lot lesser now

Liz:  Because you have more peace in your life, the more peace you are. That time in itself in terms of the human race and how we choose to live our lives and stuff. We confronted a lot of those time issues in 2020 and even 2019, but when? When is going to be the big question in 2021. When am I going to be able to live this life that I know I can? When is this going to happen? When can I finally give myself permission to do ... fill in the blank? Yeah.

Rhea: Isn't the answer always now?

Liz:  No. I mean, think about how many sessions we'd had where you were always wanting to do something and I'm like, no. Not yet.

Rhea: Yeah.

Liz:  We've actually been in more of a holding pattern than we have in a pattern of now.

Rhea: So, is 2021 no more holding pattern?

Liz:  Correct. Most people are really happy to put things off because they like their comfort. They don't like the unknown so they'd much rather tell themselves, I'll go for that job after I get my bonus,

Rhea: I will decide whether I will go on this trip closer to the date.

Liz:  Exactly. Classic procrastinators we are. But...

Rhea: Question - how can you tell the difference between tapping into your truth and going, it's just not time for me to make a decision and not procrastinating because I can't tell the difference between the two. Sometimes I feel like it's just not time for me to decide. I'm just not going to decide yet and I'll honor that. And other times I'm like, am I just procrastinating because it's a decision I don't particularly want to make? Or I'm nervous once I make it, I'm going to be looked into this choice or...

Liz:  How obligated. I mean, it's exactly what you said. It's how obligated do you feel to make that choice to begin with that often will tell us.

Rhea: Okay. Explain.

Liz:  I need to make a decision tonight, tomorrow for this. Sometimes when there's a deadline is when we push against it.

Rhea: So, if we haven't created a deadline, we don't tend to procrastinate?

Liz:  Generally no, when we can really, but we're so afraid of owning our desires, we'll push it off because we don't think we should or have permission to. That's how you can also know.

Rhea: Okay.

Liz:  Right. I mean, what do you really want? There's nothing to hold us back energetically anymore. There's no more holding pattern, and holding back from anything will not serve us. We have enough to do now. We had the long break. We were stuck inside for a long time, and now it's time to actually do something with all that energy and creativity that we had that might have remained stagnant. And so the sooner that we can begin to really plug into ourselves and discover the divinity and connect to our joy and find that happiness is when we can really begin to gather the pieces that we need for that foundation for Fifth Dimensional Consciousness, which is really rooted in joy and purpose, so we need to be living all of that.