Don’t Worry, Be Happy

Rhea: I struggle with happiness as a concept, if I'm very honest.

Liz: Do you?

Rhea: Yeah. Because I associate it with transient moments rather than constant feeling. So you know, for me, it's always like kind of happiness is fleeting because it's like a moment of happiness. And I think because of that...

Liz: Or a second.

Rhea: Yeah, exactly. And so that's why I always think, like a lot of what we've been talking about over these podcasts have been kind of mine and I think quite a few people's experiences and perceptions of the highs and the lows.

Liz: Yeah.

Rhea: So for me, a moment of happiness translates to a moment of happiness followed by a moment of unhappiness.

Liz: Yes.

Rhea: So it's always quite fleeting

Liz: Very much. I mean, I was the same. Sometimes you would use the word happy in Season 1, like this doesn't make me happy or certain things, I'd be like, wait, wait, wait! Let's not use the word that people should have the goal of happy. I've always had this weird association with happiness as being so transient that that should never be the goal.

Rhea: Yeah, exactly.

Liz: So ideally would not be people's goal. That to me, a more workable or ideal baseline would be contentment. Like I'm good. So when happiness was presented this season, I thought, what the fuck? This is where we're going now? Okay. But the moment I wrapped my head around how they defined happiness and how happiness is the essential precursor to peace, and there is a kind of baseline of happiness which we call bliss, I was finally able to get my head around it.

Rhea: Yeah. I mean, look, it makes more sense in the sense that what you term contentment I think about when you're just kind of lying on a hammock on a beach and I'm just right now quite happy. If I think about it like that, it's more just like a constant state of "phew". I can't really think of a different word for that. Then I can kind of get on board and kind of imagine it a little bit more, instead of having huge highs and huge lows. It's kind of more spread so it's like an even spread like if you're spreading butter on a piece of toast, it's not lumpy, it's evenly spread. So it's the same amount of happiness, but it's just spread differently.

Liz: Oh, that's interesting.

Rhea: If you're having the big bouts of ups and downs, you're less likely to be able to have the happy bliss feeling. You can have the happy bliss feeling and those bouts will be joy and love more than happiness.

Liz: Oh, interesting. I like that visual. Okay.

Rhea: That makes sense?

Liz: Yeah. Yeah. I mean, one thing I've learned throughout these episodes as we've explored peace and happiness and stuff like that, I realized that that sort of contentment baseline that I thought was enough, once you've gotten to happiness and bliss, contentment as a baseline is like...meh

Rhea: Yeah, well, that's exactly what I was talking about in the last episode. We're talking about Seasons 1 and 2 and it's all about can we get to okay? Can we get to fine? Can we get to you don't wake up in the morning in dread? And you don't live your life feeling like it's about to crumble underneath you, but then once you've transcended enough of your fears, that becomes the baseline. Okay, fine isn't enough anymore, and it's like wait! As humans, if you talk about growth and evolution, actually oh, interesting cause if you talk about growth and evolution, it's like, okay, so we've done this. What's the next great thing we can do? I've managed permanent okay. Can I manage permanent bliss? Do you see what I mean?

Liz: You can. Bliss is infinite happiness.

Rhea: Yeah. But that's what I mean. So like at the beginning, when you.

Liz: So what's beyond that?

Rhea: Yeah, exactly. What's next? So it's a bit like I am going to give it a very …

Liz: Oh, you know what? There is something beyond that. There is something beyond bliss. We'll get to know at the end.

Rhea: And that is also growth and evolution. It doesn't have to be pain and lessons. It's just we can get more and more happy, more and more blissful, more and more joyful, more and more loving, you know what I mean? So if we've done this work and you managed to reach halfway through Season 4, so that's what? 70 episodes.

Liz: Oh my goodness!

Rhea: This is episode 71.

Liz: Oh, that's a trip.

Rhea: Yeah. So if you get to episode 71, okay should probably be your baseline now. It is probably your baseline now.

Liz: Or maybe even fine.

Rhea: Or maybe even fine. How amazing! But really what you want is - and I wrote this yesterday - I don't find at all fine or okay as a baseline anymore because I've experienced amazing and consistent amazing over a day, a week, a month. I've had that feeling, so that becomes the new baseline. Do you see what I mean? So it just keeps growing and growing, but you can't get those baselines when you're kind of okay, and then excellent and then shit, and then okay, and then excellent and then shit. It has to be more consistent. But once you're in that consistent place and that becomes a new normal, then you can reach for the next new normal.

Liz: Yes. You can open yourself up to that growth and that opportunity.

Rhea: And the other thing I notice is that in order to get to that normal, certain amount of fears have to be divested.

Liz: Oh, completely or you keep looping.

Rhea: Exactly.

Liz: And those loops are not necessarily positive loops.

Rhea: No. And I've definitely experienced that of late when I kind of did my own little freak out moments.

Liz: Right. So loops can be opportunities to get us to the next step, but once you've gone beyond okay and fine, you don't loop.

Rhea: Interesting.

Liz: When you've reached beyond fine, the baseline beyond fine is good. Then it's more than enough that you wouldn't necessarily have to learn by looping fine-good, fine-good, fine-good.

Rhea: And then it becomes good-bliss, good-bliss, good-bliss.

Liz: Yeah, exactly.

Rhea: Okay, fine.

Liz: Until you get there.

Rhea: Exactly. That makes sense. So it'd be fine-good, fine-good, fine-good. And then the more I divest myself of my fears, then I get to good all the time, and then I go good-bliss, good-bliss, good-bliss, good-bliss. And then as humans, once you get used to something, you forget what it's like to even be fine or okay anymore.

Liz: You really do. You're just wondering what the fuck is going on with everyone else.

Rhea: How exciting!

Liz: And in the next couple of episodes, we're really going to talk about what it takes to get there

Rhea: To good or to bliss?

Liz: To good.

Rhea: Okay.

Liz: Yeah. Yeah. I mean, it's good and then it's really more good-happy, good-happy, good-happy.

Rhea: And then when you can maintain happy.

Liz: Yeah. Happy-bliss, happy-bliss.

Rhea: Okay. So we've got okay, fine, good, happy, bliss and something after bliss.

Liz: Yes, but we wouldn't necessarily get to those in this lifetime.

Rhea: Okay, fine.

Liz: Yeah, and remember, and all of that is effectively peace, right? It's all a matter of vibration if you will. So, what cuts through that vibration, what lowers our vibration is always fear. So when we experience fear, which is not the same - and I know I've said this a few times – ‘cause I always want to remind people your small doubts, your worries, the little insecurities about what tomorrow will look like because you have no idea, that is not the same as true fear. The "I don't know how I'm going to pay my bills, keep a roof over my head, feed my family", those pit in your stomach moments of despair and fear.

Rhea: When we discussed fighting a fear, transcending a fear, it's seeing that fear, walking through it and seeing that it was merely a construct. That's effectively what it is, or once it becomes real, seeing that we have survived it. Now that is a way to transcend our fears.

Liz: Fear is such a construct of 3D. It's all it is. So, if you have entered 5D, your experience is not one of fear anymore, but it could be that you enter into a space of worry because of the uncertainty. And that might seem like fear, but it is not.

Rhea: And how does one transcend worry?

Liz: You allow. This hasn't killed me yet. I'm just going to keep going, and that's pretty much my answer to this.

Rhea: Yeah. And does it end? Does it just dissipate?

Liz: Yeah.

Rhea: So, it's not about fighting fears anymore?

Liz: No, it's not.

Rhea: It’s just allowing the worries to pass through.

Liz: Exactly.

Rhea: Are they regular? Is it often?

Liz: I don't find that that's the case. I find that sometimes it's just a trigger or something happens to someone close to us that sort of wakes us up to the complacency we might've been in. But when you are in 5D, everything is about flow so you get to a point where you just can roll with it. When your baseline becomes happy or happy to bliss, even trust doesn't factor into it anymore.

Rhea: By that point and this is the thing we kind of spoke about a little bit at the end of Season 3 when you were talking about detachment, and I said to you, well, it's easy to be detached when everything's working out. And you said, well, that's what happens. When you've transcended your karma, things happen to you, but they don't break you the way they used to because karma is what breaks you. So yes, more often than not, things work out. So, I can imagine that once you get into happiness and bliss and that's more of a constant state of being, that things work out more and more all the time. In some ways it might feel like you don't need to trust because there's never that moment of, Oh God! Oh, I'll trust this will be okay, because it's kind of just working out anyway.

Liz: Yeah. It's always okay. And I think it's really good that you brought up the detachment bit, because it is important to have a massive level of detachment when you get to happiness and bliss.

Rhea: Well, I guess it would come naturally. Otherwise, you wouldn't be able to, but I wouldn't say detachment is the goal. It's the byproduct of everything else

Liz: Completely, completely. And that's why we would never teach that you have to detach in order to achieve X because people hear that and they think, well then fine. I'm just going to let go of this, this, this, and then I will be happy. As we know, it never works.

Rhea: No, it never does. Whereas if you've done enough work and you've overcome enough of your karmic shit and you're in a place where things tend to work out in your favor, even though you might not know what your favor is until they've worked out, you are able to have a level of detachment because trust becomes a baseline. Trust becomes just another thing, because of course you trust.

Liz: Yeah, exactly.

Rhea: Because it works, and that's where time comes in because you live in it with enough time, you do almost forget what okay and fine felt like. You almost forget what it was like to be swimming in your shit.

Liz: And drowning in your shit.

Rhea: And drowning in it. And sometimes I go back and I listen to episode 1, or I read the beginning chapters of the book and I'm like, Whoa, I was really fucking miserable. And I guess that's what 5D is, what true Oneness is. It's just everything. Nothing is permanent apart from my state of bliss.

Liz: Exactly. Nothing is permanent. And that is why ...

Rhea: That's not for my state, for my bliss?

Liz: Well, yeah, but even that's not really permanent

Rhea: Because then there's a new one to come off after.

Liz: There's the new one to come. There's just living, there is flowing so our sense of permanence is sort of a static thing. I cannot be more than, and we seek permanence because we don't want less than, so permanence is always that security blanket. If I know I'm here and I can never be anything but here, then I'm good

Rhea: Because I can't go backwards.

Liz: Exactly.

Rhea: I think going backwards is a huge fear for many of us or at least a worry for many of us.

Liz: Very much. Way to throw that word back in my face, Rhea! Thank you. But no, it's fair. It's fair. But if you are in a permanent state, then that also means that there's no evolving.

Rhea: So, you can't get better?

Liz: No, and that's not what we're here for. We're not static creatures, you know. We are dynamic creatures.

Rhea: But does our state of being fluctuate, or is it just what happens to us changes?

Liz: No, our state of being doesn't fluctuate.

Rhea: How does one grow then? Because I associate growth with Shit happening to you and you fighting a fear or you overcoming a hardship. I always think of my growth as a slingshot. I go back and it hurts, it hurts, it hurts, and then I kind of get propelled forward. So how do you then grow if you're not growing through pain, because obviously you can't be happy and unhappy?

Liz: No, it's true. You could be happy and a little unhappy, if you will. Something happens...

Rhea: You can be happy and uncomfortable; you can be unhappy and shocked. You see what I mean? How do you keep growing and evolving when it's not through pain, and it's not through the way we've always learned to grow and evolve?

Liz: First of all, it means expanding our vocabulary around our emotions, because really, it's like, if we're not happy, then we must be sad.

Rhea: But I think that's the thing about Oneness and allowing and all that kind of stuff is that for me initially, I thought wait, is this just like complacency? Do I just sit around and do nothing and just allow everything? What I realized was is that actually allowing is not being complacent. It's about making a choice and trusting that things will move and shift in a way so that your choice works.

Liz: When you learn to be in that allowing space, it's also that your choice really doesn't matter because it's just going to play out anyway.

Rhea: Interesting. But then how does that work?

Liz: I know, right?

Rhea: Because isn't that almost complacency?

Liz: You would think. You would think, but when you're in your flow, you're living your purpose. When you are tapped into and living your purpose, you cannot possibly be complacent.

Rhea: No, because you're working.

Liz: You're working, you're living, you're thriving. You are so divinely connected that you understand that you have something to do in this lifetime. This is not the lifetime to be complacent. There will be lifetimes in which purpose really won't matter.

Rhea: In the future.

Liz: In the future. We are always creating. We're meant to be creating. We're meant to be fucking; we're meant to be loving. We're meant to be always doing, but not in the sort of I'm enslaved to my job kind of doing. I just need to have a reason to wake up in the morning kind of doing. But as beings, as souls, we're always meant to be growing and evolving and you don't do that just by being complacent and sitting on your ass.

Rhea: No, you'd also just get fed up very quickly, because if you're happy, you want to be doing stuff.

Liz: Yeah.

Rhea: No-one's happy sitting at home forever watching TV under a blanket.

Liz: Not at all. We want to be experiencing things.

Rhea: Yeah. So, it's not really about being complacent but it's also not about kind of feeding the chaos either. It's just about allowing whatever happens.

Liz: And we don't even necessarily have to intend to raise that baseline. Like, Oh, okay. I think I'm at fine. Let me get to good. That comes naturally he more we discover our purpose, because complacency is the result of fear. Complacency comes from the story that fear tells us we are not powerful.

Rhea: But you can't be complacent and then be happy then, I assume, because to be happy, you have to be in your power.

Liz: Exactly. And you cannot really be happy if you're not living your purpose.